"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they're gifts given to help you discover who you are."

Monday, April 30, 2012

Ten things cancer has given me

I'm starting to think (and blog) in bullet points.  Too much time in powerpoint meetings? Perhaps.
This is where my mind was during a particularly dull one today....

Thank you, cancer experience.  You have brought me:

1) A quicker recognition of simply beautiful things. You can't appreciate spring flowers when you don't feel well or when you are consumed with staying alive. I see them now. I see them immediately and gaze a little longer than I used to.

2) An appreciation for good health.  A return to health makes you appreciate more what you had, then lost--the ability to get through a day without thinking about how crappy you feel or look. I only hope I don't go back to taking it for granted.

3) Empathy for those who have had a much tougher journey than I have.  I want to help those just entering the cancer chaos, but I don't know how to reach them; how to connect or what to say or do. I want to tell them that they will make it through to the other side and that in the year to come they'll be creating their own list, if only in their head.

4) The freedom to not stress about keeping up with friends and family.  Those that truly care are always there...regardless of whether you've talked to them or sent them a text or an email in the last six months. Some of the strongest human connections I have are rekindled fairly infrequently.

5) The opportunity to see how the friends and family referenced above reacted. Still trying not to be bitter in some regards; I'm sure some had good reasons for indifference or avoidance. I hope I can be better than that. It's kind of like going to your own funeral; you get to see who "shows up" for you.

6)  A personal growth experience that I would have missed had I not been diagnosed and gone through the ups and downs (okay mostly downs) of treatment and recovery from treatment.  Some people actually pay life coaches for this kind of stuff .

7) A glimpse into a world of internet connections that I never knew existed. I've "met" women on line who have wonderful stories to tell; women who are marvelously talented writers and are actively sharing their intensely personal tales of cancer diagnosis, treatment, and life.  Yes, life goes on amid it all and it's fascinating to see the sunshine of shifting perspective among survivors and the remarkable optimism of those still struggling to beat it.

8) The ability to put my feet up after a long, tense day and not feel guilty about it.  OK, admittedly still working on this one but I'm clearly not as type A as I used to be....

9) An increased ability to speak professionally.  I have less fear about making my points known; I'm less intimidated by being surrounded by intelligent men. On second thought, this may have more to do with age or hormones (or lack thereof) than cancer. 

10) Menopause. Speaking of hormones...cancer has brought me roughly and abruptly into the "change of life".  Several years sooner than I would have gotten here without the aid of radiation, but what the hey.  I can say I got it over with; one less thing on the great 'to do' list of life.

Sunday, April 29, 2012

Hope Springs Eternal


Thankful today for the beauty of spring. Hoping everyone has beautiful flowers out their windows and in their souls.

Monday, April 23, 2012

HRT

Have I mentioned that I love my estrogen replacement patch?  I waited for over a year to take the plunge, but am so thankful now that I did.  Who would have thought that actually being able to sleep all night would have such a positive impact on one's outlook on life :) 

Grateful for having made it to this place.  Thank you Lord and thank you....whoever invented estrogen replacement!

Monday, April 16, 2012

The proverbial other shoe

Do you ever get over the feeling that the other shoe is about to fall?  I'm guessing this is a fairly common phenomenon among cancer survivors....the thought that every weird thing that goes on with your body is a sign that the cancer is back, or has moved, or is encroaching into some new tissue, some new organ.

Wonder if my insurance company would care if I had a PET scan every week.  Ha.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

To hormone or not to hormone?

That is the question.  I have been resisting any kind of hormone replacement therapy. Doctors are reluctant to recommend one route or another. Tales of the increased risk of breast cancer abound. I've had that scare in (what seems long enough ago to be) a previous life. Multiple lumpectomies and finally, a diagnosis of grandulamatous lobular mastitis. Not at all fun at the time, but after this most recent adventure, a walk in the park. But I digress.
After almost exactly a year of dealing with the motherlode of hot flashes, I've thrown in the towel (no pun intended) and jumped on the estrogen replacement bus.
What pushed me over the edge was snapping....literally, a couple of different times, and at work no less. So I decided that since I really like my job (and having the ability to pay my mortgage) I needed to do something to address the irritability and the sense of overwhelming frustration.  I could have found a shrink, or tried anti depressants (actually recommended by a doc along the way) but am fundamentally opposed to both.  Instead I opted for estrogen.  What a concept.  Turns out the body wants and needs it, even after the ability to produce it is stripped away without consult.
I'm only 4 weeks in, but can tell the difference already.  I sleep better, have more energy, and have a somewhat diminished desire to rip the head off of overbearing and/or incompetent people I work with.  Life is good.