"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they're gifts given to help you discover who you are."

Monday, August 11, 2014

And the beat goes on...

We're now into August; summer is flying by. Since I have connected with a few people here, and am still hopeful that I'm providing some help to someone somewhere by sharing this story, I feel somewhat obligated to continue posting--even if sporadically.  Most days I'm so sick and tired of dealing with cancer...thinking about it, reading about it, living with it, that I'd prefer to do something mindless as opposed to blogging about my cancer experience. 

As positive as I've tried to be here, the truth is my reality kinda sucks.  Chemo for life is a grim road; I'm not gonna lie.  Truth is I've felt like shit for about 5 months now.  After months of complaining about chest pressure, abdominal pain, and telling docs and nurses that the current chemo combo (Cisplatin and Navelbine) is killing me, I got sent to a gastro doc who found a hiatel hernia and
H Pylori. So perhaps I'm not going to have a heart attack anytime soon, and perhaps the current antibiotics to kill the stomach bacteria will make me feel better once I get over having to crap about 12 times a day. Maybe there is light at the end of this incredibly long tunnel after all.

In other news, I'm trying to get into a clinical trial at the NCI in Bethesda, MD. It's an incredibly slow process and will likely be pretty unpleasant, but I know that immunotherapy is the future of effective treatment, so seems like the right thing to do.  Still in limbo at this point.

The last bit of suckiness here is that my husband has been diagnosed with prostate cancer.  His urologist insists that it's completely treatable, and that it's a very slow growing cancer.  Still trying to process it.  I'm strangely immune to the news, and my focus is on providing some semblance of strength and security for my daughter going forward.

So if I ever have the time and energy to actually do some deep and contemplative writing, I have plenty of fodder for blogging.

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Change in attitude

Since my last post was a real downer, I wanted to share some more upbeat thoughts on this lovely summer day.
Shortly after I whined about feeling alone, my extended family (my wonderful sisters, beautiful nieces, favorite nephew and family, my mom and dad, etc) surprised me by showing up at my door on a holiday weekend--snacks, beverages and lunch in hand. I was so happy to see them all, I quickly forgave them for the lack of warning (they knew I would cook and clean had I known they were coming). Many of them drove 4+ hours one way and back that day; what a gift.

I've made a conscious decision to stop comparing my story to other cancer stories on the distorted world of the internet.  Duh.  What was I thinking?

Many other good things going on around me as well:
  • My little great nephew (son of #1 nephew above) came out of chemo for medulloblastoma with a clear scan, after an initial terrifying read.  So happy for them! What a horrible road for a young family.
  • My teenager is now legal to drive, and has hit the road. Scary, but less hauling her around for me.  And I'm so grateful for every milestone I get to participate in.  
  • The hubby may finally be able to walk again soon, finally! after a long period of healing a broken leg. Looking forward to having him mobile again :)
  • My latest scan came back with reduced SUV numbers/activity levels with no spread to other areas.  So even thought I felt like crap and was sure the cancer was all over in my back and stomach, turns out I'm not dying anytime soon.
    • Bad news is that current chemo routine continues.  Suck.
  • Summer has finally come to the midwest.  The skies are a beautiful shade of blue with a brilliant white fluffy contrast.  It's warm and wonderful after a ridiculously ugly winter. I'm grilling pork chops and eating watermelon and root beer floats. Life is good!
Cheers,
~D.

Monday, May 19, 2014

Gut reaction

Cisplatin and navelbine are kicking my ass--via my guts.
As usual, the body being sick kicks the brain into overdrive.
My head is spinning. I don't know how to carry on my 'normal' life feeling this shitty.
I don't know how to say 'enough already' when I have a little girl begging me to stay.
I don't know how to deal with a spouse having his own medical issues.
I need help, but there is no one is this bucket of crap with me.  I feel alone with no one to turn to.
I read the happy stories of cancer patients surrounded by support and I get angry.  Where is my support?  Why do I have to do this alone? 
Pity, party of one...

Thursday, April 3, 2014

Too good to be true

So Avastin was cool...virtually no side effects--none worthy of complaining about anyway.
But alas, my good fortune was not to be. Turns out the patient friendly chemo was allowing the tumors in my liver to grow and venture off into new areas.
Kind of a kick in the teeth.  I had gotten to the point of thinking "hey, I can do this forever..."  and now I'm right back to dreading the whole scene again.  So sick of this.  So sick of cancer. I must go on. Ugh.
Anyone know anything about navelbine?  My next great adventure.

Monday, February 17, 2014

Thankful

After several months of doing the insurance company shuffle: attempting to get approval, being denied, and following multiple levels of appeal, my health insurance company (with a little encouragement from an external medical review board) has finally approved the use of a new chemo drug for me.  Avastin is of a different drug 'family' so to speak; I'll spare you the medical/scientific details because I would no doubt get it wrong anyway.

Suffice to say that I was so looking forward to getting on this drug for several reasons.  First and foremost:  the side effects are virtually non-existent.  No more chest/esophogeal issues, no nausea, no body aches, no rock bottom white blood counts, no shots to boost WBC, no steroids, no more anti- nausea drugs and thus no violent swings from constipation to crapping constantly.  Perhaps I'll even begin to feel my feet again.  Sad to admit that at this point, the little tendril of hope that this drug may actually stop the growth of the cancer is a distant second reason I'm glad to be going down a new path. 

So for now I'll just be thankful that I caught this break.  At least what I perceive to be a break at this point anyway.  Just when I thought I couldn't go on, I have a light in my tunnel again. Thanks, big guy, for looking out for me.

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Update, schmupdate

I get the occasional request for "updates", and I'm not sure how to respond. 
I really can't think of a standard answer....where to start?
I could go into detail about how shitty I feel for days after chemo; could talk about the weird pressure in my throat and chest that is begging me to stop the madness. 
I could talk about how this whole pain in the ass routine is going to be with me for the rest of my life, or at least until I throw up the STOP sign.
I could talk about the latest scan results, or the latest battle with the insurance company.

But I really don't want to.  The whole business gives me a bad taste in my mouth. Why would I want to savor it? I don't want to go over it again, because you see, these "updates" are not really news--they are just the new normal of my life. 
I have nothing more interesting to say than the dopey people who post about how best to clean your hardwood floors or make your windows shine.
This cancer crap is just boring, routine stuff that I'd rather not repeat.  Rather not talk about.  Rather not write about. Guess that makes me worthless as a cancer blogger, eh?  Might be time to hang it up entirely since I spend so much time avoiding it.

So instead I answer with all the bluntness I can muster.  There is no update. My disease is terminal.  We all deal with it as needed, when we're forced to. It's just so much easier to avoid it entirely.  I'm too damn busy living day to day to come up with anything profound.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Sweet Dreams

So it seems I have this love/hate relationship with my bed lately.  I'm often dead tired by the end of the day, and sleep seems like a blessed escape, but the minute I crawl into bed and get ready to sleep some switch flips in my brain and I'm mentally wide awake.  There are few things in life more frustrating than not being able to get to sleep even when you're tired.  Laying there watching the minutes tick by on the alarm clock, all I can think about is how tired I'm going to be the next day if I don't get some damn sleep soon. And of course, there are lots of thoughts that creep to the surface in the wee hours that I normally thump down in the light of day. So I've started dreading going to bed.

The preceding sentences have been nothing short of a justification for abusing my new nighttime drug combo of choice:  Advil PM and Lorazepam. 
I admit that because I think it's contributing to the wealth of dreams that finally come when I now fall asleep--deep and drugged.  They are always pleasant dreams.  Maybe this is a blessing sent to cancer patients everywhere....your life is chaos, you feel like crap, but your nights will be full of laughter and flouncing around on rolling green hills in the sunshine.
My daughter is there--smiling and laughing and looking like she is about seven or eight again.  No teenage moodiness, no arguments.  My husband is there--helpful and happy and looking like we're on the best vacation ever.  My job is there, but there is meaning and purpose to having a career again.

Life is good in my dreams.  I feel light and carefree; cancer doesn't cloud the horizon at all.  When I wake up, that feeling stays for just a fleeting minute before being replaced by my reality.